On the importance of cleaning

For those who have known me a while, this blog may come as a surprise. I was not and have never known for tidying up. I liked my mess. It made me feel like I lived in the place, like life was happening. The house I live in with my son is our temporary home. For now we have got a home here, but it is purely transitional. So being here, I also never really bothered arranging my belongings with the most care. What is the point if you are leaving some day anyway?

I’ll tell you what the point is: we all deserve to live in a home that mirrors the way we’d like to be treated. And that’s just the issue. So many of us don’t feel like we deserve to be treated with love and care. And our surroundings mirror that self image, or at least they used to for me. Then one day, after a nourishing retreat where I suddenly really started loving myself, I came home and looked around. What a mess! It was in that moment that I realised that it doesn’t matter whether this place is transitional, what matters is that wherever I am, wherever I go, I can create a home, a place to come back to, to charge, to relax. A place that nourishes the body, mind and soul. I deserve to have a lovely home, that is not covered in old letters, dust, randomly put decorations. No! I am a goddess and my house is my divine temple and that is the way I will treat it and by treating it that way, I can show love to myself as well.

My house isn’t completely dust-free. There is still toys strewn about, I sometimes find a little car in the most random place imaginable. I sometimes do leave the pasta sauce stain on the stove. But my house is a home, it is a temple. By cleaning and rearranging, I cleaned out the old, I cleaned out unworthiness and made space for loving caring energy. By taking care of my home, I take care of myself. It doesn’t matter where you are, how long you’re there. You deserve to have a place you can come home to. As do I.

Autumn is a time for cleaning out anything you don’t need any longer. Let go and make space!

Autumn is a time for cleaning out anything you don’t need any longer. Let go and make space!

Living from the heart

Let me start by asking you a question? Do you make your decisions from your heart or from your brain? Who gets to decide? Most of us will probably answer that we prefer to really think about our decisions and make a rational choice, based on good thinking. Our brain has been heralded as the big thinker and decision maker, but did you know that your heart is just as capable of thinking?

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Wouldn’t it be wonderful if they’d get to work together? The past months for me have been dedicated to opening my heart. What I have discovered is that if I do do this and dare to let my heart guide me, life starts flowing, and I start flowing with it. Our heart feels what is good for us (shockers there, I know). It feels what suits you and what drives you. It gives the motivation that we need to be energized in daily life. Our mind is capable of rational thinking and planning! So let’s just paint a picture where they work together: in this ideal picture you have a decision to make. Something is bothering you, not feeling right (gut feeling? Thinking with the gut is a whole other topic that I’d love to get into another time).  You go into your heart. Close your eyes. Breath in and out until you feel completely relaxed. Bring a picture into your awareness that makes you ecstatically happy. This can be something you have seen or done, or just something that even the thought of makes you tingle all over. Keep this picture there until you feel your skin vibrating. Then ask you heart what it wants to do. It will most likely give you an answer straightaway. The first answer is always the right one. Anything that comes after is your ego doubting or fearing this desire. Take this wish to your mind and there you can make these wishes come true! Take steps towards creating this thing that your heart so obviously wants. And guess what… It will work for you! You’ll feel amazing doing this thing, because it is the thing that suits you on a soul level. If you allow your heart to guide you, you will discover that life will start flowing for you. Surf on the waves!

Why is this so scary for most? If we do open our hearts, there is also a chance of getting hurt, or feeling old hurts. It might force us to take hard actions that scare the living hell out of us. Believe me, living from the heart does not mean life is always about rainbows and butterflies and unicorns. But it is about doing what is right for me and accepting myself on a soul level. I’ve had to make difficult decisions, had to move through years of old hurt. But through moving through all that, I was able to come out on the other side stronger and happier than ever! I let my heart guide me and it brings me to the life that is perfect for me. Now most days I am filled with joy and peace. Sure, not everything has been easy and I know not everything will be easier, but even going through those difficult decisions is better than working against the flow of life and against my heart, for when you are happy about yourself and proud of who you are, life can throw anything at you and it will be a thousand times better than those days when you ignored your heart’s desire.

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Reiki and Responsibility

Did you know that in ancient China medicine men were only paid if their client was healthy? If you think that wouldn’t ever work, then think again. It worked because they valued health so much. Your health is one of the most valuable things you possess and we are very much responsible for this. Back then and there people understood that sometimes this meant changing their diet, adding plant medicine, or changing an entire lifestyle. It required them to be active patients, in charge of their own healing, guided by these medicine men.

How does Reiki work with this? All Reiki healer learn certain guidelines. We are encouraged to live by them, implement them into our lives and pass them on to clients who could benefit from them.  These guidelines are all about taking the responsibility for our inner and outer health for what is within is out, and vice versa.  We are taught to understand that our health, happiness and healing are very much within our own hands. Literally. Because Reiki is a technique we can use on ourselves very easily. It makes us aware of what needs to be healed (step by step), and gives us tools and energy to heal.



Sometimes this means combining Reiki with other techniques, daily practices such as meditation, yoga, breathing techniques. Or adding certain herbal supplements, or uprooting your diet. We are all responsible for our own health and capable of building our own harmony that works for the unique being that you are! Thanks to Reiki I can always always take charge of it and help clients and students do the same!